MARGIE J. CONLEY vs. MICHAEL N. ROMERI.

CYPHER, J. The plaintiff appeals from the dismissal in the Superior Court of her complaint alleging tortious conduct by the defendant during their romantic relationship. She claims that, about eight months after they met and became involved, the defendant told her he previously had had a vasectomy, a revelation that caused her emotional distress. She asserted she had been misled into the relationship with the defendant because he knew she had little time in which to become a biological mother, and she would not have become intimate with him had she known of the vasectomy. The plaintiff's complaint included allegations of intentional and negligent infliction of emotional distress, fraud, and assault and battery. [Note 1]

Background. The essential facts are not in dispute. The parties began their relationship in June, 1996. Then in their early forties, both had been divorced. The plaintiff recently had started her own company and the defendant was a director of a management consulting firm. The defendant had four children from his previous marriage; the plaintiff had none. In a discussion in July, 1996, about the future of their relationship, the plaintiff expressed her desire to have a family, and the defendant responded that a fortune teller had told him he would have six children, and that the plaintiff should not "worry" about that.

Feeling assured, the plaintiff chose to remain in and work on the relationship. The parties became sexually intimate in September, 1996. About one month later, the defendant, stating that the plaintiff "should be having [her] period now," asked whether he had "gotten [her] in trouble." In February, 1997, the plaintiff claims, the defendant revealed, "out of the blue," that

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he had had a vasectomy in 1993. The plaintiff claims that the defendant's disclosure emotionally devastated her, that she suffered a major depressive disorder and incurred medical expenses, and that she was unable to reverse the economic position of her company.

Discussion. 1. Negligent infliction of emotional distress. To recover for the tort of negligent infliction of emotional distress, a plaintiff must prove: "(1) negligence; (2) emotional distress; (3) causation; (4) physical harm manifested by objective symptomatology; and (5) that a reasonable person would have suffered emotional distress under the circumstances of the case." Payton v. Abbott Labs, 386 Mass. 540 , 557 (1982). It is fundamental that there must be a showing of a duty of care owed to the plaintiff, because "[t]here can be no negligence where there is no duty." McHerron v. Jiminy Peak, Inc., 422 Mass. 678 , 681 (1996), quoting from Aetna Cas. & Sur. Co. v. Fennessey, 37 Mass. App. Ct. 668 , 673 (1994). "Whether a defendant has a duty of care to the plaintiff in the circumstances is a question of law for the court, to be determined by reference to existing social values and customs and appropriate social policy." O'Sullivan v. Shaw, 431 Mass. 201 , 203 (2000), and cases cited.

The plaintiff asserts only that, in the course of their relationship, the defendant created a duty of honesty, but does not identify any legally cognizable duty between parties in a dating relationship, nor are we aware of any legally defined duty applicable in these circumstances. Accordingly, we conclude the plaintiff has not stated a claim upon which relief may be granted. See Quinn v. Walsh, 49 Mass. App. Ct. 696 , 700-701 (2000).

2. Fraud. The essence of the plaintiff's fraud allegation is that the defendant misrepresented [Note 2] that he was capable and willing to father children for the purpose of inducing her to stay in a relationship with him. She relies significantly on the materiality

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to her of that alleged misrepresentation. [Note 3] To resolve the plaintiff's allegation that the defendant's failure to disclose his vasectomy was the material factor in determining his liability would require us to assess the emotions, expectations, and commitments inherent in a developing romantic relationship. We are aware of no jurisprudential standards that can be applied in such circumstances.

The comments of the court in Stephen K. v. Roni L., 105 Cal. App. 3d 640 (1980), are instructive and persuasive. In that case, the court rejected the plaintiff's tort claim seeking damages based on his claim of reliance on the defendant's assurances that she was taking birth control pills when he engaged in sexual relations with her, from which the birth of a child was a consequence. Id. at 641-643. The court stated: "The claim of Stephen is phrased in the language of the tort of misrepresentation. Despite its legalism, it is nothing more than asking the court to supervise the promises made between two consenting adults as to the circumstances of their private sexual

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conduct." Id. at 644-645. The court also commented: "Claims such as those presented . . . in this case arise from conduct so intensely private that the courts should not be asked to nor attempt to resolve such claims. . . . In summary, although Roni may have lied and betrayed the personal confidence reposed in her by Stephen, the circumstances and the highly intimate nature of the relationship wherein the false representations may have occurred, are such that a court should not define any standard of conduct therefor." Id. at 643.

We agree, there is no recognized standard of conduct by which we reasonably can assess the materiality of the alleged misrepresentation in a context such as the present case. Accordingly, we think the plaintiff fails to state a claim upon which relief may be granted.

3. Intentional infliction of emotional distress. The plaintiff claims that the defendant knew she would not have remained in the relationship had she known of his vasectomy because she was approaching the biological end of her childbearing capability, and that he knew emotional distress would be the likely result of his conduct. She alleges his conduct was extreme and outrageous.

To prevail on a claim of intentional infliction of emotional distress, a plaintiff "must establish '(1) that the defendant intended to inflict emotional distress, or knew or should have known that emotional distress was the likely result of his conduct, . . . (2) that the defendant's conduct was extreme and outrageous, beyond all possible bounds of decency, and utterly intolerable in a civilized community, (3) [that] the actions of the defendant were the cause of the plaintiff's distress, and (4) [that] the emotional distress suffered by the plaintiff was severe and of such a nature that no reasonable person could be expected to endure it.' " Quinn v. Walsh, 49 Mass. App. Ct. at 706, quoting from Tetrault v. Mahoney, Hawkes & Goldings, 425 Mass. 456 , 466 (1997).

We review the record to put in context the defendant's revelation, "out of the blue," that he previously had had a vasectomy. In her affidavit submitted in opposition to the defendant's motion for summary judgment, the plaintiff comments:

"While admittedly I did not accept the statements about

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what the . . . fortune teller had told [the defendant] as proof that he was going to have two more children, it was crystal clear to me that he was offering this information to lead me to believe two things which he knew at the time were untrue 1) that he was physically capable of having more children presently and 2) he desired to have more children. Both of these facts were untrue, but I did not find out they were untrue until February 1997."

The plaintiff also cites the defendant's asking her if she were pregnant after they became sexually intimate as leaving little doubt in her mind that he was capable of fathering another child. Furthermore, she states that on several occasions the defendant indicated that his first wife had "tricked" him into having another child, calling that a "betrayal," and told the plaintiff that it was very important that she (the plaintiff) not betray him. Accordingly, the plaintiff claims all of these statements led her to conclude that the defendant had the same goals for the relationship as she did. The record also shows that when the parties became sexually intimate, they did not discuss any methods of birth control, the defendant did not use condoms, and the plaintiff had been taking birth control pills but did not inform the defendant. In these circumstances, the plaintiff's conclusion that she and the defendant had the same goals in the relationship generally may have been justified, but nothing in these facts indicates that the defendant's conduct was extreme and outrageous.

The plaintiff's growing belief that the defendant was capable of fathering children provides the context for her reaction to the defendant's revelation that he previously had had a vasectomy. The defendant apparently then recognized that the plaintiff was attaching seriousness to that revelation and asked whether she was upset because he had not told her, or because he actually had undergone the procedure. He also commented, "You really didn't want kids at this stage of your life, did you?" The parties continued dating and were intimate until April, 1997, when the defendant said he had met another woman and the plaintiff broke off the relationship.

Even if the impact of the defendant's revelation was intended, and even if the defendant had created false expectations about

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his future relationship with the plaintiff, nothing in his conduct throughout the relationship can be said to rise to the "high order of reckless ruthlessness or deliberate malevolence" required for a showing of conduct that is "intolerable." Conway v. Smerling, 37 Mass. App. Ct. 1 , 8 (1994), citing Agis v. Howard Johnson Co., 371 Mass. 140 , 144-145 (1976), and Foley v. Polaroid Corp., 400 Mass. 82 , 99 (1987).

Moreover, the relationship of the parties continued until the plaintiff broke it off when she felt betrayed after the defendant told her of his interest in another woman. "It does not lie within the power of any judicial system to remedy all human wrongs. . . . [M]any wrongs which in themselves are flagrant -- ingratitude, avarice, broken faith, brutal words, and heartless disregard of the feelings of others -- are beyond any effective legal remedy . . . ." Prosser & Keeton, Torts § 4, at 23 (5th ed. 1984). [Note 4] "Out of the human condition may arise a myriad of emotional responses including anger, sadness, anxiety, and distress, many of which are attributable to the conduct of others. While perhaps blameworthy, such conduct is often not legally compensable." [Note 5] Quinn v. Walsh, 49 Mass. App. Ct. at 706.

We conclude, therefore, that the defendant demonstrated that the plaintiff had no reasonable expectation of proving the requisite level of extreme and outrageous conduct, an essential element of her case, and therefore was entitled to summary judgment.

4. Battery. The plaintiff alleges that the defendant's failure to reveal that he had had a vasectomy was a fraud that vitiated her consent to sexual relations. Such sexual relations, thus, constituted a battery. [Note 6]

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There is no indication that the defendant's statement in July, 1996, after several dates, that he had been told by a fortune teller that he would have six children was made with the intent to induce the plaintiff to have sexual intercourse. At that stage of their relationship, such a statement may be seen only as an inducement to continue dating. There were no discussions between the parties about having children together, or of marriage. Moreover, the plaintiff's feeling that she wasted time with the defendant because her biological clock was running does not constitute a battery. [Note 7] We conclude, as a matter of law, that the plaintiff's consent was not vitiated, and that summary judgment properly was allowed for the defendant.

Judgments affirmed.